Dating advice from a single guy
And while something inside her is telling her it's the right thing to do, something inside the guy is telling him just the opposite, yet he proceeds. For the physical pleasure no doubt, but also, I think, for another reason: it makes him feel like a man.
But there is a great irony in that, for what is manly about deceiving a woman?
Maybe it's just built into "the system." But one thing's for sure: I'm not alone. I know many people having marital problems because they engaged in premarital sex.
They go into the marriage with lack of respect and lack of trust, two absolute necessities for the health of any marriage.
Deep down, she doesn't really enjoy being with him. Since "girls use sex to get love, and guys use love to get sex," a couple will have sex before marriage. The guy does it because he wants it even more than the relationship itself. Now that I'm out of college and many people around me are getting married, I'm seeing it happen all the time.
Then, after the marriage, the woman has what she wants: a commitment from the man. And, because she may be harboring resentment because he had sex with her before they were married, she is now not interested in sex. The antidote: waiting for marriage to have sex will give the man a greater respect for his wife and the woman a greater respect for her husband.
I don't know why this happened, I just know that it did.
But nobody talks about this kind of thing in public.
And the movie and TV portrayals of couples having sex before marriage never present it either.
It's like no one wants to acknowledge that it's happening, even though it is. Because we'll go into the marriage with me having more respect for her and her having more trust in me.
One thing I've learned: if a girl doesn't trust a guy, she doesn't want to give herself wholly to him.